Sound

At Jackie and James’ ceremony on Sunday, June 7 at Starved Rock State Park in Utica, Illinois, the sounds of the ceremony were just as moving and present as any other part of the well-thought-out day.

Music is always a consideration when planning your ceremony. Because Jackie and James’ location was not a church, a little bit more thought had to be put into the source of the music, since there was no piano or organ available.

They chose The Naperville Brass, which consisted of 2 trumpets,  a horn, a euphonium and a tuba. The sound was rich and unique and reverberated beautifully off of the wooden ceiling beams and the wooden floors of the 70+ year-old lodge.

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The Naperville Brass play at Jackie & James' wedding Sunday, June 7, 2009, at Starved Rock State Park in Utica, Illinois. WarmowskiPhotography.com

An unplanned source of unique sound was the items used in their unity ceremony. Instead of a unity candle or sand or salt, the couple had small, smooth stones distributed to each person in the congregation.

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Maid of Honor Amanda collects stones from the other bridesmaids during Jackie & James' wedding Sunday, June 7, 2009, at Starved Rock State Park in Utica, Illinois. WarmowskiPhotography.com

When each person had a stone, they were instructed to hold it and think positive thoughts/pray for the new couple. The stones were then collected. Jackie held a jar of the stones collected from her side and James from his. They then poured the contents of their jars into a common vessel held by the pastor.

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Family members hold pebbles during Jackie & James' wedding Sunday, June 7, 2009, at Starved Rock State Park in Utica, Illinois. WarmowskiPhotography.com

The sounds made by the stones during this ceremony were fantastic! First, each person taking the stones from the jar, some people accidently dropping them on the wooden floor; each person returning their stone to the glass jar; combining each rows’ jars of stones into 2 jars, two jars being poured into one. I hope every time Jackie and James hear stone against glass, they will think of their wedding day and all of the good wishes and love those “tinks” represent.

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Jackie & James hold a vase of pebbles during their wedding ceremony Sunday, June 7, 2009, at Starved Rock State Park in Utica, Illinois. WarmowskiPhotography.com

Unity Candle II

There are a couple of ways I’ve seen unity candle ceremonies done, and I wanted to share them.

One of the first things to figure out is whether or not you have your backs to your friends and family.

(below) For Alison and Chris (3 March 2007), the decision was simple. The chapel was very intimate and it was much easier for Alison (and her dress!) for them to light the unity candle from the front. Be sure to keep in mind the space available to you as well as your wedding-day attire.

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Another thing that Alison and Chris did that worked with their limited ability to move around a lot, was the placement of the candle. Alison and Chris had their unity candle set off to the side, instead of in the center of the alter behind the pastor.

(below) Alicia and Matt (29 December 2007) lit their unity candle and also signed their wedding certificate while facing their friends and relatives. The bride may need some help from the groom in this situation, depending on the length of her train.

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(below) Jaimee and Ken (21 June 2008) had their unity candle on the alter and there wasn’t the option of going behind. The alter area didn’t really accommodate having the unity candle elsewhere.

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Some other things to consider when deciding where and how to light the unity candle:

-if you are planning to have music during the lighting, and you don’t plan to have any other activities during the song (such as giving roses to parents, etc.), you may wish to face your friends and family, and stay where you are behind the candle for a minute or two, since they will be looking at you during that time. I always think it’s sweet when couples take this minute or two to chat or just stare at each other!

-just like everything on your wedding day (except maybe vows and signing the marriage certificate) whether or not to do a unity candle ceremony can be a decision, not just a given. One thing you might want to think about when making that decision is to research the tradition and history of lighting a unity candle and see if it’s something that fits your personalities and relationship.

-of course, if location rules dictate, or you want to do something different, there are several alternatives to a traditional unity candle ceremony. But that’s for another blog entry.

Unity Candle I

I loved the simplicity of the unity candle at Christine & Bob’s wedding (10 May 2008), as shown in the photo taken before the ceremony. The ribbon colors matched the color scheme Christine and Bob had chosen for the day.

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During the lighting of the unity candle during the ceremony, it seemed that Christine and Bob forgot the rest of the world existed as they whispered to each other and Christine planted a kiss on Bob’s cheek.

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